Project Ai 2007

I Do

2008-05-25T00:59:00.002+10:00

Saturday morning dawned, well, before dawn for Satomi and I on this weekend of our vows. Climbing into our newly minted hire car, we made the short trip into Roma Street to pick up the first of our interstate (and international) guests - my Mum. It was to be a fairly momentous occasion, as Mum was to meet my soon-to-be bride for the first time on that dark, smoky train platform just one day before we were to be wed. The introductions had to be short and sweet, however, as the deadlines of the weekend were tight and imposing.

Stopping briefly to unload our human cargo at the Albion Love Den, we fired up the car for yet another pick up - Satomi's parents. This was to be another momentous occasion with this being the first trip to a western country for both Otosan and Okasan. Waiting at the pitifully small and over-crowded greeting area at the international airport was probably the first time a huge wave of anxiety and nerves overtook me. The previous weeks and months of getting this ball going had kicked in, and all of our plans and ideas were firmly underway. And, standing there amongst all of the other eager and watchful eyes, trained hungrily at the automatic doors which separated the customs area from the general public, I suddenly realised how much of an effort so many people were making to share this weekend with us. And with that, I had a pang of anxiety, wishing everything would be to their liking.

Before too long, the Nagai family representatives were spied and collected and we headed out of the terminal and into Australia proper. Satomi's parents were staying at a hotel just 2 blocks away from the Love Den, so I left the family to settle in for a bit and headed back down the hill to hang out with Mum. It was good seeing her again after about 18 months of being apart, and despite some early jitters, I think she was glad to have made the decision to come up for the occasion. We shared a smoke, a coffee and a chat before the Nagai's arrived for the inevitable cross-cultural introduction uncomfortable-ness. I was a little anxious that the cultural differences would be too vast for someone like my Mum (and, for that matter, Satomi's parents) to overcome in order for them to connect in some way. But, within minutes, omiyage was being exchanged and breakfast was being served (which Mum found particularly fascinating, with Otosan sucking down his standard egg on rice and miso soup heart-starter). And, through the stilted but comprehensive translated conversation, it was clear that there was one bond which transcended all things cultural - and that was the shared bond of being a parent. Okasan and my Mum in particular seemed to hit it off, to the point where Otosan seemed to feel very much on the outer and so started wandering around the Love Den taking random pictures of the strange things he came across.

With the other travelling guests being looked after (Steve-O was sorting out the Dave and Mizi show, and both Dad and Jen were making their own arrangements) it left us alone to share some quality family time together - which, in all reality, would probably be the only time we would get to do so. The conversation ambled into the early afternoon, before Mum made her way up the hill to check into her hotel room, and Satomi took her parents up to Toombul for essential supply shopping. Which left me in a little bit of a hole, getting some unexpected me-time. I, of course, fritted this away by playing Xbox and smoking way too many cigarettes - but that's to be expected, I guess. As the afternoon gave way into evening, the entire collected crowd of family and very close friends (Steve, Dave and Mizi) rendezvoused at the Love Den before descending on Thaiways for a mass feast. For the extended Connolly (and ex-Connolly) clan, this was a big enough event - with Mum and Dad seeing each other for the first time in about 23 years (according to Pat). Added to that this was the first meeting for Dad and my soon-to-be wife, and that all around the table we were either meeting each other anew, or reacquainting ourselves with relos we may have lost touch with, and you can get a bit of a taste for how special this night turned out. As these things usually do, the night focused back into the Love Den, with drinks, conversations and general good vibes all 'round. Our friendly possum once again made a cameo and became the star of the show (as she often does), before people started filtering out and leaving us, the happy couple, to ourselves. As we bedded down as a couple on that Saturday night, it sunk in to both of us that this was to be our last night as, well... single people.

Sunday, 30 March 2008. It was not our first choice of dates, being changed to accommodate people and events (our first choice turned out to be Easter Sunday), but it turned out to be a great choice in the end. The Sunday before, which was our original date, was crappy and rainy, but looking out the window as we awoke, we realised there was someone on our side. It turned out to be one of those perfect Brisbane days with the sky so blue and crisp that it almost crackles. There was no time to soak it up, however, with deadlines and pressing errands stealing our time even more so than yesterday. A quick trip up to the northern suburbs secured our flowers for the event, and as we arrived back, Otosan and Okasan were heading down the hill already prepped and ready to go. Before long, Steve arrived with Dave and Mizi and the bridal crew were off to Jinna's place for the day of preparations. The groom's party had one more task to achieve - arguably the most important one of the day (apart from the event itself) - the collection of the impressive Dreamy Donut wedding cake. Dave was given painstakingly clear instructions on the setting up of this cake, before our event organiser, MC, stage manager and all-round good guy Alan arrived to collect his gear (and Dave) to set up the bowls club for the reception. Soon after Steve-O departed to prepare himself and his parents, leaving me to my own devices. It was probably the worst move of the whole day, with that slight window of opportunity allowing the creeping nerves to take a real hold on my psyche and leave me a shaking, quivering mess. Mum's arrival eased the nerves slightly as she set about making sure her son got readily prepared for what was meant to be the biggest day of his life. She obviously succeeded in that mission, by delivering a slightly inwardly dishevelled (but outwardly suave!) groom to the Newstead Part rotunda in time and ready to go.

After a quick set up, I was thrust into the role of meeter and greeter for the steady, but thankfully small, trickle of guests attending. Masking my extreme nervousness, I cycled through the groups, thanking them all for sharing this day with us (and was quietly relieved to see absolutely no suits... yay!). I resisted the urge to chain smoke my nerves away, but instead found myself battling a monumental case of dry mouth which would make even the most hardened of pot smokers weep at its grip. Steve's Mum's bottle of water went a little way to ease the pain, but it was too little too late to save this little black duck from the next 45 minutes or so trying desperately to will his mouth into producing at least some kind of moisture.

All of those thoughts and nerves disappeared almost the instant I looked up to the top of the walk-way to see this gleaming, bright and sparkling figure in white. Only seeing the dress briefly before the event, I had no idea how it would look up close... and it seemed Satomi was intent on making the wait even longer, as for some unknown reason, they waited at the top of the path for a good 10 minutes or so before deciding to come down. With her arm entwined into the crook of her Dad's elbow, she eventually made her way down the long pathway behind her 2 bridesmaids - Mizi and Catherine. Greeting her at the top of the rotunda was a little surreal, with her beauty being something I can still not fathom. In front of the eyes of all of our closest friends and family, I felt on top of the world and scarcely heard a word of our celebrant's opening stanzas as I swam in the vision in front of me. With Otosan presenting his eldest daughter's hand to mine, the ceremony proper started to take shape. Saying the things we were prompted to say, and kissing in all the right places, the ceremony went without a hitch (apart from the ring being a little bit too tough to slide onto her finger) and it was over before I thought it had really even began.

After some extended photo opportunities (why does everyone own a bloody digital camera these days!!), the guests began their slow amble up the road to the bowls club, leaving the bridal and family party behind to get the official photos. It was only then that we realised that Steve's parents had high-tailed it home without the hire chairs that were supposed to be packed into their car before they left. Adding insult to injury, it appeared they had decided not to be burdened by their mobile phone for the afternoon, and so were impossible to get a hold of to get them to come back. Faced with a decision, Steve and I decided to shoulder half the load each and walk up the road to the bowls club, hopefully to have them collected at some later time. While it wasn't the most comfortable or elegant of events to have occurred on the wedding day, I couldn't help thinking that if this was the worst thing that could happen today, then I would be a very happy man.

As the party was already in full swing, Satomi and I made a graceful entrance to the sounds of Eddie Vedder's Big Hard Sun which heralded the beginning of what was to be a great afternoon and blissful evening. Cutting yet more photo opportunities short, I bee-lined it for the bar for a much need ale to relieve my still parched throat and mouth... oh, and made sure I got my new lovely wife a wine while I was at it. With the sun setting over the bowling green, the speeches were the first cab off the rank for the afternoon's "formalities". Best man Steve took to the stage first and set the bar too high for the rest of the speakers to come, including yours truly. His speech, peppered with in-jokes, and stories from both of our pasts (thankfully none of them embarrassing), had the room equally divided with laughter and tears. Unfortunately, Catherine had to follow this great speech and she did well with regaling stories of Satomi's past and welcoming me into her Brisbane family. A couple of more speeches later and we were introducing the real entertainment for the afternoon - Fretfest's own rising star Dave Di Marco. His short set was punctuated with Alan himself getting behind the mic and belting out a stirring rendition of David Gray's Please Forgive Me which prompted an impromptu wedding waltz.

Demolishing the white Lindt chocolate doughnut cake signalled the end of the night's formalities, as we settled into the evening. The night turned out almost exactly as planned - a gentle, intoxicated evening amongst our loved ones. With just the right amount of sweetness and craziness (thanks mostly to the Kelly gang), it ventured long past the planned finish time of 7pm. As the bar tab refused to nudge the limit we'd imposed on it, we went open slather and devoured as much drink as we could collectively handle. So much so, that we were caught with our shoes off and bowls in hand trying to drunkenly master the gentle game in as much drunken humour as we could (and hoping that the white shoe brigade wouldn't think any less of us for doing so). The rest of the evening was rather uneventful - apart from Steve being refused service for being too drunk and the Kelly's being warned off the green for trying to reverse the past indiscretions of the Australian cricket team against their fellow country-men by trying to bowl lawn bowls over-arm - and we slowly dwindled in numbers. Before long, we were piling into a taxi and heading back to the Love Den.

Opening the door to the Love Den as husband and wife was... well, to be honest, apart from our costumes, it felt no different to any other night, really. However, through the slightly drunken haze, we readied ourselves for bed surrounded by a warm and loving embrace that can only come from a day such as this. It was an enveloping warmth of the knowledge that from this day forth, this person who was sharing my house was to be doing so for the rest of my life, and also a warmth from the loving knowledge that all of those people there today were going to be there forevermore to ensure that no matter what sort of life we forge ahead with, it will be happy and joyous and wonderful. And that was exactly the sort of feeling I was aiming for when sketching out the wedding all those months (or weeks) ago.

Leading up to I Do

2008-05-18T21:41:00.001+10:00

Starting a new life is never easy. And, heading back to the Albion Love Den following our blissful 2 week introduction to Japan (for me) and 2 week goodbye to Japan (for Satomi) was a little overwhelming. Initially, though, it was a little puzzling. My flatmate for the past 6 months, the Angry German Rock Star Ingo, was completely absent, which was most unusual. I had suggested to him before leaving for Japan that Satomi and I would be keen to have the place to ourselves when we got back, but I had not intended it to mean that he should scarper before we got back. A scrawled note on the kitchen table, however, alluded to something a little more believable: he had met "someone" and was staying at her place! Nice one, bruvva!

With Ingo moved out, we set about the task of settling in and making the place ours, rather than just mine. Sure, Albion hasn't really changed in the years (and thanks to Steve-O for pointing it out in his best man speech), but it has changed enough in the recent months to have me looking at it in a whole new light. Satomi has moved permanently into my bedroom, naturally, which has meant that logistically, my living space has been halved. But, to compensate, we now have a spare room! Which has come in handy for when the odd drunken guest needs a crash point.

Satomi also started a new job, in the bosom of all things salad-related at Mrs Crocket's. Amongst other things, this has allowed us more time to hang out together and has also meant I am now eating "proper" lunches made lovingly and sometimes painstakingly each morning. My system doesn't know what hit it! We've also settled into Brisbane-city life, with weekends enjoying the beauty and splendour of this fair city. It's been fun rediscovering some of things I started to take for granted around this place. We even got to hang out up at the gorgeous Woodford Folk Festival around New Year's, thanks to our good friends at Fretfest!

And, while spending some serious time just hanging out and enjoying the loving vibes, there was always this one huge event hanging over our heads - our pending wedding. Much to the angst and chagrin of some of our loved ones, we naturally left the planning of this momentous occasion to the very last minute. For us, though, the day was not meant to be a big, stage-managed and controlled event, rather a fluid, casual and relaxed affair which spoke of both of our personalities. And so, in that spirit, we leisurely approached the sharp end of the planning wedge early into the new year.

Focusing on the key areas of who, where and what, we narrowed down the field of ideas and plans into a basic framework. We settled on an outdoor event at one of the places I hold dear in Brisbane - the rotunda at Newstead Park. Nestled within the crook of an elbow of the Brisbane River, the rotunda is surrounded by huge majestic pine and palm trees, and provides sweeping views both up the river towards Newstead, and down towards the plush Hamilton hill. The choice of the reception venue was easy from that point, with the Booroodabin Bowls Club just across the road proving the perfect blend of a chilled atmosphere, flexibility and a relaxed attitude to what we wanted to do with it (it helped that, by coincidence, an old mate was now running the joint).

The guest list was probably the hardest thing to come to an agreement on. We had both agreed the cliched "small, intimate wedding" was what we wanted. That was fine, but with both of us having extended groups of 'associates' it was hard to whittle the guest list down to a really good size. We finally worked it down to about 35, which comprised of really close friends and our immediate family. Despite some initial confusion, Satomi's parents worked out that they were able to make it out to Australia, which meant the day would have an added special element.

With the big picture scoped out and sorted, the last few months were left to panicky planning and organising of the little, but important, details to make sure the day was exactly what we wanted it to be. One of the early consternations was the choice of outfit, with my idea of a very relaxed event being blown out of the water by Satomi's early purchase of a full wedding gown. While I was initially quite upset about this development, it took the counsel of those much wiser and experienced in these things to make me see it from the girl's perspective. And while it meant that I was now forced to wear a stupid suit, I made it abundantly clear early on that it would be a dressed down suit with no hint of fancy crap. Heck, I was even steering clear of going near ties! So with the outfit sorted and the lady beavering away sorting all the other details out for the ceremony, I was left to my own devices to organise and manage the reception part of the agenda.

Well, that was the initial intention. Satomi's interest in all things wedding took over from my almost complete disdain and apathy for it, so she became much more part of the event organising. With me being left in my little realm of sorting the entertainment and polishing up a meaningful ceremony speech, I was more than happy with leaving the other aspects (such as what colour ribbons to put up on the walls) up to the others. On the music front, however, I was more than pleased to offer one of our Fretfest darlings, David Di Marco, the chance to serenade us on our special day. Combined with a newly acquired 80gb iPod, I had more than my hands full with making sure the event was at least as musically special as it would be in every other way.

With time slipping away, I spent the week before the event officially on holidays, but as busy as ever. My go card had never had such a solid work out as that week, with numerous trips across town to tie all the annoying loose ends together. A Friday dawned, Satomi and I breathed a sigh of relief with everything worked out and ready to go. As of Saturday morning, with numerous friends and family arriving from interstate and overseas, it would be very much "go time" and the event we had been working on and planning would swing into life and sweep us up in its heady motion of joy, reunion and love... just the way had wished it would all that time ago when I popped the question.

2008-05-16T21:12:00.000+10:00

8 months later...

It's been 8 months since the last post, hey? Which means it's been 8 months since Satomi and I started our new life together back at the Albion Love Den. Some could say we've been slack for not posting any entries since then, but they'd be wrong. You see, not much has happened in the past 8 months... it's been pretty quiet, actually. You could say it's been pretty boring. Not much to talk about, really.

Mind you, that's a complete lie. The past 8 months have been fairly busy to be honest, with a combination of getting a new job (for Satomi), settling in to the new permanent living arrangements (for me... a harder task than I initially thought), buying new stuff for the Love Den, finishing off an exciting run of Fretfest's Find of The Year at QPAC, birthdays, Christmas, Woodford Folk Festival... oh, and that minor little thing called a wedding! After those major hurdles were tackled, we set our sights on the mission of completing the next step of the visa arrangements, which went swimmingly.

So, as this blog is supposed to be our record of this moment in our lives, I promise to spend the next few days expanding on each of the major milestones we've overcome in the past 8 months. Stay tuned...

Travel Diary - September 3, 4 and 5

2007-10-07T11:35:00.000+10:00

Days 13, 14 and 15: Inami, Osaka, Brisbane

It came around too quickly. I only just got there, if felt, and I was turning around and heading back out the door again! Monday was our last official day at Satomi’s home in Inami. After 33 years (on and off) of Satomi calling this place “home”, she was about to walk out the door and spend the rest of her life coming to this place as only a visitor. Understandably, the emotion was thick in the air, but we still managed a couple of necessary errands and an ‘interesting’ visit to her grandma’s.

After skirting around town to visit the bank and city hall, we popped into grandma’s place to pay our respects and say goodbye. We were immediately ushered into the ‘formal’ part of the house and were shown her pride and joy – a solid gold Buddhist shrine which she had recently had refurbished. The thing was so intricate and immaculate, with rows upon rows of finely carved gold shelving which delved deep into the cupboard where it was stored. Even more fascinating to me was a framed photograph of her grandpa from when he was a youngster and enlisted in the Japanese Imperial Army. He saw active duty during World War II and the beautifully crafted display case showed off his official papers, as well as the medals he received for his service.

We retreated back to the formal living room (I guess you could call it) where we sipped the now ubiquitous green tea and chatted more about the differences between our two cultures. It was here that grandma revealed to me (through Satomi) that as Satomi was the first grand-child, she was (and still is) a very special part of everyone’s hearts… so it was vitally important that I understand that and that they approve of her choice of suitor. Luckily, it seemed she did. Which she confirmed a little while later by relaying how utterly impressed she was with how I was continually offering to help her up. It’s not something I really thought about, but seeing a 80-odd year old woman with failing joints try to stand from sitting on the floor, it was a natural instinct for me to offer assistance. Apparently this chuffed her a great deal, and I was approved of instantly! Yay for me and my chivalrous ways!!! The afternoon tea was interrupted fairly unsubtly by a ‘friend’ of grandma who ‘just popped by for a visit’. Within seconds of entering the room, she dominated the conversation and it was visible on grandma’s face that she was none too happy about not having Satomi and I too herself. She seemed pretty nice, but I had to try hard not to burst out laughing at her disastrously ill-fitting dentures which seemed to want to launch out of her mouth every time she spoke. Apparently I was the only one who noticed it, including herself. All too soon, however, we had to leave and we bade farewell to grandma until next time. And Satomi’s tears fell for the first time of the day.

We headed back into town to get in some last minute omiyage for the folks back home. This was not such an easy feat, however, with Inami being famous for its wood carvings and Australian Customs being anal about not allowing wood products into the country. We persevered however, as Okasan had insisted we purchase something for my Mum from Inami. We found it eventually, in a beautiful 30cm tall bronze statue of a famous monk who had traveled through the region ‘back in the day’. With all of the buying out of the way, it was time to head back home to prepare everything for the departure tonight.

After a quick dinner and shower, I finally got all of my things squared away into my bags. Now, I had a hard-case suitcase (which weighed 24kgs), my shoulder bag (4 kgs) and now a rather large backpack (10kgs). With Jetstar restricting baggage to just one check in bag of no more than 20kgs, and one carry-on bag of no more than 7kgs, I knew I had to do something drastic. I left Mum’s present out and requested Okasan post it the next day, and rearranged some things into Satomi’s bag to lighten the load. Still, I knew we would have to do some swift talking at check in to make sure we weren’t charged the astronomical extra-weight charges.

I also already began to rue my wardrobe decisions. Without access to a shower or change of clothes tomorrow in Osaka, I decided to wear clothes I would be comfortable in while traveling tonight on the bus, and tomorrow night on the plane. It consisted of my new swish dark denim jeans, a t-shirt and over-shirt, thick socks and my boots. Even though it was 8.30 at night, the steamy humidity already had me sweating buckets… and we hadn’t even left yet! My outfit also caused mirth for Okasan who knew that Osaka would be stinking hot tomorrow and that I would be totally uncomfortable walking around in this garb all day. Oh well, I thought, it can’t be that bad. I was wrong… but more about that later.

Before either of us were really ready to leave, we were saying goodbye to Asami and Hiroki, as well as giving one last pat to Nana (and attempting to give a pat to Tane, the cat, who seemed utterly disinterested by our departure… bloody cats) and we were squeezing into Otosan’s cute little van for the hour-long trip to Kanazawa to meet the night bus to Osaka. After a brief tour of the bus station, our chariot arrived and it was time to bid a final farewell. With Satomi fighting back the tears, we quickly headed up the stairs and into our cramped front-row seats on the bus. Within minutes we were away, and Satomi no longer held the tears back. After 33 years of calling Japan home, and of using it as a base for her extensive traveling, she was just beginning the journey which would see her relegating this place as one in which to visit from time to time. While Satomi may not have always seen eye-to-eye with her parents over the years (they certainly didn’t seem to understand her want to live overseas), it seemed that in the past few months they had patched up their differences and turned over a new leaf. Her whole family, but particularly Otosan and Okasan, seem very happy with how Satomi’s life is going and her choice in husband (awe *shucks*) so the departure was a bittersweet beginning to a new chapter in their lives. And sitting their next to her on the bus, holding her hand and watching the tears stream down her face while we pulled out of the station at Kanazawa – it was hard for me not to be wracked with guilt over splitting this wonderfully loving family up. Of course, it’s not that melodramatic and Satomi never felt like that… but, you know.

The trip itself was rather uneventful, as we both drifted off into slumber. Apart from one surreal moment: both of are fairly light sleepers when traveling, and fell in and out of sleep during the night. Each time we woke, we would glimpse out the window to check where we were, and for what seemed like hours, we were sitting neck and neck with this strange green truck. We must have slipped in and out of sleep numerous times over the course of just 10 minutes or so while we were sitting next to this truck at a roadhouse; but in our minds, we had been sleeping for hours while the bus was hurtling along the highway and we were waking every hour or so to see this green truck still next to us! Bizarre.

The morning light shining through the curtains woke us early as we sped through the outer suburbs of this massive, sprawling city. With the crust still deeply set in the corners of our eyes, the bus had traversed the complex web of inner-city expressways and we were disembarking at the edge of the massive Umeda Station. After finding a large enough locker to stow our gear and a quick freshen-up, we headed into the bowls of this gigantic subway hub to try to make sense of the Osaka public transport system and make it get us somewhere to have breakfast. We jumped on the Midosuji Line and settled on Namba Station, a couple of stops away and in the middle of the city proper. We settled into a crisp American-style diner and downed a cooked breaky, coffees and cigarettes while deciding how to fill the next 11 or so hours. At just on 8am, the day was already steamy and I had no inclination to spend the hours traipsing around and working up a fine stink with which to entertain my fellow passengers that evening.

As neither of us had really researched Osaka and the attractions available, we left the diner with still no firm idea of where we were headed or what we were to do. For me, the attraction lay in the city itself – a massive sprawling metropolis which I couldn’t (and still can’t) full comprehend. Nevertheless, I didn’t really want to spend the day aimlessly wandering, so we found a Tourist Bureau which luckily had an English speaking guide. She did the hard sell on this Osaka Unlimited Pass thing, which looked too good to be true… but it wasn’t! Basically, it was a card which got us unlimited travel on the subways and buses for the entire day, plus very cheap or even free entry into about 25 attractions around the city – all for 2000yen (about $18). So, without further ado, we set off for the bus stop and on to our first tourist attraction of the day – the Osaka Human Rights Museum.

Being there just as it opened (yeah, we’re geeks!), we were the only patrons. As such, we were swarmed upon by all of the volunteers and museum workers. Through very broken English, one lass showed me how to use the English audio guide machine thingy, while yet another tried to convince me to pay for a locker for my bag. As we slowly wandered around the place, we were constantly shadowed by at least one of the green-shirted volunteers at all times… in case, you know, you needed help. Or something. Anyway, the museum was interesting enough and even though I missed most of what was going on due to the English audio guide simply giving very brief introductions to the exhibits. It gave an insight into the various human rights issues that have and still are facing the Osaka and Kansai region, as well as Japan as a whole. Issues such as modernity, the fate of the indigenous Ainu people, the treatment of Korean immigrants as well as the fate of lesbians and gays were all canvassed.

After an hour or so of being educated (and enjoying the blissful air-conditioning), we caught the bus back into Umeda for the subway trip out to Osakako and an experience I was strangely very excited about – a tall ship tour of Osaka Bay! The ship, called Santa Maria (just like the song by The Frames… although, I think it was just co-incidental), was a huge red ship that was once powered by sails, but now just a motor. Complete with fake cannons and a statue of Columbus (for that added feel of ‘authenticity’?), it was an absolute blast. Lasting for 50 minutes, it maintained our interest for about 15, before it veered away from the buildings and interesting parts of the bay to give us a close up tour of the working port. Yay! Oh well, inside it was semi air conditioned and the Asahi was cheap, and it certainly was a different way to kill a bit of time, so it wasn’t all bad news.

After the short trip of pretending to be a brave Japanese whaler (for research purposes, you understand?), we grabbed a bite to eat and jumped back on the subway for the trip back to city to start to organize ourselves for the trip home. By this stage in the day, we had walked an amazing distance and my pits were beginning to pong to high heaven. The place was sweltering – think Townsville on a bright January day – which was intermittently broken by freezing, gale force air-conditioning. My heavy outfit felt like I was wearing Arctic-grade fur coats in the tropics, and I was seriously getting over it and was looking forward to the plane just so I could sit down in comfort.

It was not to be, however, as Satomi insisted on dragging me through the massive undercover shopping mall at Shinsaibashi. The place was never bloody ending, as we traversed block upon block of brand name shops. I was utterly not interested in purchasing anything else to add to the weight which was now causing a serious lop-sided droop to my right shoulder, and so we just walked… and walked… and walked.

Fighting the urge to pass out, we eventually got to the nearest station and made our way back to Namba to get out bags, freshen up and start the journey to the airport. Being only 4pm, with the flight leaving at 10pm, we knew we were super early, but what they hey? At least the airport was air-conditioned!

The train trip was as you’d expect from a peak hour Osaka train – packed in like sardines. For about an hour, we hurtled through the massive urban environment of Osaka, squashed in between our bags and the business men on their way home. Before long, though, the crowd thinned out and we were on the bridge connecting the artificial island of Kansai airport to the mainland. After Satomi collected her bag, we did a quick reshuffle before joining the already huge line for check in. Thinking we were being smart and super organized, we arrived at the airport about 3 hours ahead of the scheduled departure… but so, it seemed, did everyone else on the flight! I spent the entire time in the line perfecting the speech I was bound to have to give to avoid the extra weight charges. Finally we were called to the desk and as we placed our bags on the trolley, the combined weight came to 48kg – 8 over the allowed maximum. Just as I was about to launch into my spiel (which included that we were newly engaged and our bags were filled with presents from family and friends… which was only partly untrue), the check-in girl looked up and tut-tutted our excessive baggage and warned us to be more careful next time. What? I had heard horror stories about how budget airlines were anal about weight charges, and yet here we were being given a slap on the wrist??? We were given our boarding passes and waved away, without even a cursory glance or mention of the two huge bags hanging on back (with a combined weight of 10kg!!) Woohoo! We were through and on our way, completely scott free!

With the night kicking in, we pottered around the airport for a bit, getting in some last minute duty-free shopping and some dinner, before heading out to the gate to wait for the flight. After a quick call to Mum and Penny to tell them we were just about to head home, we opened a letter Okasan had written for Satomi and handed her before she left. As Satomi translated it, the tears welled up in her eyes as she said goodbye to Japan. The letter was a sort of manifesto, a set of rules on how to ensure she enjoys a happy and full life. Drawing on all of Okasan’s experience, it detailed what Satomi must do to ensure she fulfills her role in making a happy and loving home for herself and her family. As the sentiments of the letter sunk in, our flight was called and we were on our way.

The flight itself was very rudimentary. We shared a celebratory drink and toasted the beginning of our new life together, scoffed down the awful meal and then settled into the night to sleep the trip away. And I firmly decided one thing – night flights rock! I had been warned that night flights were the worst, with the noise and interruptions ensuring a fitful night sleep. It wasn’t the case with us, however, as we both drifted off fairly early into the trip and didn’t really wake until the sun was coming up over the horizon. And it wasn’t long from then until we hit the tarmac and made our way to the arrivals hall to be greeted by the friendly customs sniffer dog and a rather uneventful and swift processing.

As we got in the cab to head back to Albion, both of us had a huge sinking feeling. On most other trips I had taken, after a couple of weeks I was very much looking forward to being home and enjoying the comforts it offered. Not on this one, however, as the moment we got off the plane, I wanted to be back on it and heading the opposite way back to Japan. The place was still a mysterious magical wonderland to me, filled with interesting and amazing things to discover and marvel at. Before now it was a place only spoken about, but now that I had a concept of it through my own experiences, I understood and appreciated Satomi and her history so much more. I had seen through her the intricacies and norms of Japanese society and family life, and had been wholly welcomed as a family member myself. And, despite the sinking feeling as we left Japan, I was also filled with a joy in knowing that over the next few decades of my life remaining, I would come to know this country and befriend it as a frequent visitor and welcomed distant relative.

Travel Diary - September 1 and 2

2007-10-01T20:24:00.000+10:00

Days 11 and 12: Inami

After the madness of the roadtrip, and the impending departure date looming large, the decision to spend some serious time around the rice fields was more the welcomed. Saturday morning saw me waking a little hung-over after the previous night’s festivities, which pretty much goes unchanged in the Nagai household – dinner and a long chat around the table, all the while downing drink upon drink. Amazingly, I hadn’t actually been all that drunk in Japan yet, despite the copious amounts of alcohol being offered around. The thing is, I didn’t feel all that drunk the night before either, but I guess it just all caught up with me at once.

Last night was particularly jovial, though, and was punctuated by a strangely moving (but equally just plain weird) moment between Otosan and I. Before coming to Japan, I had misgivings about how I would react to Satomi’s Dad. Obviously, the tension between Dad and his eldest daughter was something which worried her, and as a result I mainly only heard the bad stories. He was quite clearly a very conservative man, and in a very conservative country; the stories Satomi told me about him not ever cooking or cleaning and always being critical of the food prepared for him… I had no idea how my relatively progressive attitudes would meld with his. He worked hard, though, and provided a loving, caring atmosphere in his home. We hit it off well so far and despite the one monumental cultural slip up, I seemed to be passing all the right tests to become part of the Nagai family. He made it abundantly clear last night that I was more than approved of, with his antics, while soaked in Asahi and sake, tugging on the heart strings.

We had finished dinner and were settling into the night when I decided it was time for my ritualistic “breather” outside. Half way through the cigarette, Otosan appeared beside me, dressed in the bright orange Fretfest promotional t-shirt I had brought for him as an omiyage present. Hopelessly swimming on his thin, wiry frame, the shirt was in no way going to be a staple in his wardrobe – but he did crack it out every now and then just to show that he appreciated the gesture. So, here we were, one of the only times without any translation and we began to talk. We discussed the full moon, the liveliness of the dog, the heat and oppressive humidity (which he didn’t seem to feel) and the height of the rice fields (still about 3 more weeks to go before harvest, apparently)… all of this without either of us understanding a word of what the other was saying. We wandered up and down the driveway for a bit, before he grabbed my hand and shook it vigorously. Standing close, face to face, he uttered a long, heart-felt speech and never once stopped grasping my hand. I looked straight into his glassy eyes and thanked him, before he put both arms around me and hugged me! I naturally hugged him back, but he wasn’t satisfied with just that – and so he proceeded to bear hug me and lift me a good 3 feet off the ground. And this is no mean feat – just a touch shorter than me, the man is nothing but bone and toned, working-man muscle. Still, my fleshy 75kgs would surely having him struggling – but no, he kept me suspended for a good 40 seconds or so, before dropping me and challenging me to do the same to him. My flimsy frame barely put air between the soles of his shoes and the concrete – which provided him much mirth as he playfully pressed my biceps and ridiculed my pitiful muscle tone. Pulling apart, he began a classic macho-man competition and raised his shirt sleeve to show me his rippling arms, before I was thankfully rescued by a rather bemused Satomi. Thank god! I relayed the story to Satomi in a playful way and pretended to be bemused by the evening’s events and Otosan’s drunken behaviour – but deep down, I knew that even with the haze of alcohol, tonight meant a lot between the soon-to-be father-in-law and son-in-law.

We woke to a relatively quiet household on Saturday, with Asami, Okasan and Otosan all at work (Otosan helps out at a couple of local businesses when the rice is busily growing by itself). We eased into the day with a leisurely breakfast before getting ready and heading out to check out the last day of the wood-carving camp (where I also got to eat Anzac bickies!) and for a clothes shopping spree. Buoyed by my recent expedition to the DFO in Brisbane, I had come out of my fashion-buying slumber and was now firmly back on the clothes agenda. The first stop was Uniqlo – a Japanese institution of good quality, but ridiculously cheap clothes. After an hour, I walked out with 2 pairs of jeans, a pair of slacks, a pair of tracksuit pants and 2 t-shirts all for about 18,000 yen (about $160). Chuffed by the experience, we headed over to a department store for yet more spree madness before making our way back home.

The rest of Saturday and into the evening was spent packing all of Satomi’s worldly possessions to be either posted to Australia, or taken with us in a suitcase. I also took possession of a second-hand wheeled suitcase which had been gathering dust in the Nagai attic, to ease with the up-coming traveling extravaganza. Sunday we woke early and prepared a proper Albion fry up feast for breakfast – which went down a treat. Being Asami’s 27th birthday, we hung out around the house and continued to soak up its loving vibes, before getting ready for a special birthday dinner… or so I thought it was a special birthday dinner. As night fell, Satomi’s bags had been collected and were currently on their way to Kansai International Airport, and the imminent departure hung in the air like a cloud. We were ushered into the formal part of the house, where Satomi’s aunty (Otosan’s big sister) was already awaiting us – along with a massive sushi feast! Being ordered in, the platters of sushi and sashimi were a Nagai tradition for signaling a Big Event, and tonight being Asami’s birthday was an event worthy, I thought. It all began a little strangely, however, as Otosan again began a long speech directed at me, which roughly translated to him once again welcoming me to the family. Thanking him (again), I also toasted Asami’s special event – fearing that we were stealing her thunder. I was to be in no doubt as to the real intentions of the evening, though, when I was asked to open the specially-made birthday cake… however, it was no birthday cake – inscribed on the chocolate writing on top in both English and Japanese was: “Congratulations Ben and Satomi”.

It finally sank in now (yeah, I’m a tad slow sometimes) that this was actually a good-bye party for Satomi and I. And as we polished off the last of the 2-litre bottle of Asahi, I once again allowed Otosan to liquor me up with sake and soaked into our last night in Inami for some time.

Travel Diary - August 29 to 31

2007-09-24T19:36:00.000+10:00

Day 8, 9 and 10: Inami, Shizuoka, Nagoya, Gifu

There’s nothing like a roadtrip. Something about loud tunes, crappy roadhouse food and travelling at 100km/hr really gets my blood pumping. Despite being a dedicated non-driver, I’ve been doing it for years; ever since I was a kid trapped in the back seat of my parents’ car, fighting with my brother and seeing the Australian country-side whiz by. The experience of seeing the countryside as you zoom past it on the motorway holds so much more romance for me than the stale, cold, low-humidity experience of air travel. And now I’m about to experience it Japanese style, taking in 3 cities on a 3-day whistlestop tour. I feel like a rockstar already… and have the sunnies to prove it!

This mission was to take us on a round trip from Toyama, south-east (ish) to a city called Shizuoka, before looping back on day 2 to Nagoya and then back to Toyama via a place called Gifu. In all, a fairly decent snapshot of Japan encompassing both the tranquility of the countryside and the sheer madness of the huge cities. But we weren’t going anywhere until we effectively squeezed everything into Satomi’s little four-wheel drive.

Sure, we were only going away for 3 days and 2 nights, but you could have been forgiven for thinking we were setting off on a 3-month pilgrimage to Mecca. Japanese custom dictates that when visiting people, you must present them with a gift (they call it omiyage). And since we were visiting a few sets of friends and an uncle, the car resembled a Santa’s sleigh packed to the rafters with boxed confectionary and farm treats. Our personal belongings were crushed meekly underneath our humble offerings.

With the yellow-tinged morning light rapidly giving way to the midday glare, we loaded up the six-stacker CD player with the finest selection from the Albion Music Hall, and gunned it for the highway. Before long we were staring down the barrel of an almost empty expressway, and the first of a long series of the tunnels the Japanese highway system is famous for. The tunnels were one thing, but the great expanse of dense greenery greeting us upon exiting them was something I was not at all prepared for. It’s hard to describe, to paint the word picture befitting the deepness and density of the colour of the Japanese landscape. A uniformity of texture and light provides one with a sense of the impenetrability of this land, and gives one an almost instantaneous respect and admiration for those tasked with overcoming it in order to build the roadways that have come to be the great icons of modernity here. The Japanese are proud of their transportation networks, and so they should be. The smooth, pot-holeless tarmac, pristine roadsides and regular rest stop opportunities are unparalleled in Australia. Before long, however, I was to find out the reason why they were so perfect: tolls.

Unfortunately, we couldn’t stay on the interconnected expressway system, and had to deviate on to the old highway to make sure we weren’t back-tracking too much. The exits ramps from the expressway are all fairly similar: a long, looping, spiraling roadway, punctuated at the end by a manned toll booth. I had been told some pretty horrific figures about the cost of using the expressways by Steve-O, but didn’t quite believe him. Until now. This relatively short trip (I think about 70-80kms) cost us 2200 yen… about $20! Being used to having a completely free highway system in Australia, I was absolutely appalled and disgusted at the money-grabbing road-building sharks at work in Japan. Until, I guess, Satomi showed me the alternative – the old highway system.

If the expressway is the David Jones or Myer of the Japanese roadway system, then the old highways would definitely be the Crazy Clark’s. Tiny, bumpy, twisty, grotty and generally unkempt, the old highway was a battle – even for me, the non-driver. The tunnels appeared to have not been touched since before the war, and the constant warnings of rock-falls were re-enforced by the appearance of recent landslides across the valley (possibly caused by the recent earthquake). The scenery, though, was quite a spectacle as we skirted around a huge lake and river system which served as the centre piece for a hydro-electricity plant. But sheesh, the bumps and sharp turns had me begging for mercy. Satomi relayed a story about how trips from Toyama to Nagoya (about the same distance from Brisbane to Coffs Harbour) back when she was a kid would be a 2-day affair, with an overnight rest stop mandatory in order for the driver not to go insane and drop the car over a cliff. My bravado and scorn about road trips in Japan being easy due to the pitifully short distances were taken back, as I began to search eagerly for the nearest sign of us re-entering the expressway system. Heck, after just half an hour on this highway, I was prepared to mail a deed of ownership to my first-born child to the “money-grabbing road-building sharks” if only they could ensure the entirety of Japan was covered in their fantastic odes to road transportation.

Thankfully, we were back on the expressway soon enough and rocketing on our way to Shizuoka. A couple of rest stops up the road and we were faced with a very frustrating nose-to-tail traffic jam around the outskirts of Nagoya. The mysterious slowing of traffic cleared as mysteriously as it started, and we were back up to full steam - which in Japan is sign-posted as between 70 and 80 km/hr, even on the expressways (although a distinct lack of highway police – we only saw one cop on the entire trip – meant that the cruising speed jumped to up to 120 at times… but shhh, don’t tell anyone!). As our destination loomed, Satomi chickened out and decided not to attempt the final 20kms or so with low fuel warning light flashing, and so a quick detour for petrol had to be made. A couple of phone calls and text messages made sure Satomi knew where she was going and we paid the remainder of the tolls (turning out to be around $75 for the 400-or-so kilometers) and we delved into the inner-city traffic of Shizuoka. And, for the first time in my life, I was able to say that I had traveled from one side of the country to other! Small milestone, yes, but when you come from Australia and say that you’ve traveled across it, you are granted a respectful awe… it’s a notch that I haven’t as yet been able to put in my belt.

About 180km south-west (ish) of Tokyo, Shizuoka is far removed from what I imagine the zaniness of the huge capital to be. Nestled on the Pacific Ocean, it is regarded as the geographic centre of Japan and home to its most famous natural wonder – Mt Fuji. Excited at the prospect of witnessing the snow-capped wonder, I was more than disappointed with the hazy, overcast conditions on both days we spent there. The haze was so much of a pea-souper that not even the faintest outline of Fuji could be seen. Oh well. Just another reason to come back, I guess. But we did get to witness Shizuoka’s other claim to fame, as being the home of Green Tea. The hillsides surrounding the city are dotted with steep fields teeming with tea leaves and giving it an almost sub-continental feel (I guess mixed with the humidity, one could be forgiven for thinking that we’d actually driven to Sri Lanka).

We weren’t here to check out the scenery, though, we were here to visit some old dear friends of Satomi’s from her college days. The three day trip was killing two birds with the one stone – an introduction for me, and a good bye from Satomi. Our first port of call was to Satomi’s good friend from college Kazuko and her family. As she had recently given birth to her third beautiful child, it was wise of us not to impose too much on the happy little campers – and so we were invited to bunker down for the night with Kazuko’s Mum and Dad, who had become like surrogate parents to Satomi during her college years. We make a quick pit stop at Kazuko’s Mum’s house to dump our belongings and freshen up, before making the quick trek across to town to stop in with the happy family. The fleeting visit was more of a catch up for Satomi, as well as a chance for us to become all clucky as a result of the gorgeous little baby. The visit was punctuated by a brief introduction to Kazuko’s older two girls who, despite being eager to meet a westerner, turned completely shy the minute they stepped from the car and refused to even come near me. I don’t really blame them!

After the first visit out of the way, we wanted to catch some ‘culcha’ and so high tailed it over to the city centre to catch an exhibition by famous Japanese doll-maker Atae Yuki. The dolls were exquisite, made out of a Hessian type material and clad in traditional Japanese clothes in the style of the 1950s. The clothes themselves, mostly kimonos, were hand-made stitch by stitch, and only used fabric from the era depicted. The display was beautiful, showing mostly children set in mischievous poses, but also included an astounding display of a traditional wedding kimono which caught the glint of Satomi’s eye. Pity they are so expensive!

After sumptuous Thai feast that had me missing home (well, missing Thaiways next door), we hit the bed and readied ourselves for the assault of the Nagoya city centre planned for the next day. After the relatively short trip, we arrived in Nagoya proper and set about the next friend meeting of the trip - Tomoko and her two cute little boys. Both boys had been learning English, and so both took the opportunity to practice their skills on me. It was all very cute and cuddly… for about 5 minutes when the boys went back to ‘normal mode’ – which basically entailed the younger one slyly punching or poking the older one to get him to retaliate and then getting in trouble. So reminiscent of my childhood!

After bidding farewell to the hyper boys, we made the quick trip across town into the city centre, searching for our bed for the night. The hotel that we booked was right in the heart of the city and directly across the road from the main shinkansen (bullet train) station. Resisting my inner boy and his urging to “go and have a look at the big, fast trains”, we instead skirted underneath the train lines and into the main shopping district. Dotted in amongst the Channel and Dior shops were something a bit more familiar to me – homeless people. The distinct lack of the homeless in other places we had visited so far hadn’t even occurred to me as something that was missing. I guess the fact that they were not there to be seen everywhere else, and so familiar to me at home that they are almost a part of the visual fabric of my daily life, had jolted me to look around for other “differences” between Japan and Australia. Sure, there are the big, obvious things (you know, like… there’s so many Japanese people here… who’da thunk it?!?!?), but I was more interested in the subtle differences. The things that make Japanese people a culture so unique and intriguing to us big dumb westerners.

There were the superficial things, like the food, the sitting on the floor, the removal of shoes when you go into someone’s home, etc; but there were also other aspects, too. Like the conformity. Walking around Nagoya’s bustling city centre at home time, all I saw was a mass of businessmen and office workers dressed in the standard white, short sleeved business shirt and dark pants (made me feel quite at home, considering it’s my work uniform). The conformity is also played out with their most treasured vehicle of choice – the pushbike. There are no fancy schamncy 15-gear, deep traction, wanker mountain bikes here. Nope, just a good old steel framed, 3-gear no-frills pushie, with little to no modifications added after taking home from the shop. All similar colours, shapes and sizes, I have no idea how you would know which was your bike at the end of the day, especially if you parked it in the underpass under the train lines – it was seriously packed from one end to the other with row upon row of bikes.

The other stark contrasts between our cultures, I found, was the deep politeness. It was politeness to the point of being embarrassing and annoying at times, but certainly polite. Take, for example, the barrage of greetings you get when you walk into, by or near any kind of shop or establishment – “Irashaimase!!!”. It’s basically an informal greeting, but when screeched out at a high pitch and forced out through the nasal passages, especially with the disinterest exhibited after screeching it for the hundredth time of the day – it starts to grate on your nerves. The politeness, though, did manifest itself in a deeply moving way with the irrepressible bow. Unsure of the custom towards bowing, I stuck with the basic Aussie-bush-larrikin-slight-head-tilt-cum-nod for most of my time in Japan. Thinking that I should take my time and ease into the full bow when I felt confident that I was not making a complete dick of myself, I continued my understated nod to all and sundry, and tipped my head to anyone passing on the street who maintained eye contact for even a split second. And so to the homeless man: not realizing it at first, I made the fatal mistake and made eye contact. This he took as a sign of obvious weakness and advanced on me with his hand out and the best hang dog expression he could muster. Realising my mistake, I motioned with the international gestures for “no”, but it didn’t put him off. As he approached closer, I decided to walk away and catch up with Satomi, who had vanished into the throngs as she was mesmerized by Gaultier’s latest retail offerings. A little disheveled, I turned back in the direction of the homeless man to see him following me. Slightly concerned for my welfare (although not sure why), I firmly told him to “fuck off”… a term that he seemed familiar with. Immediately, he dropped his outstretched hand, stood to attention and bent at his waist in a deep, respectful and (I believe) apologetic bow. With me now feeling like a complete prick, he turned and resumed his scavenging and left me in a slight state of shock.

After being jumbled in my thoughts for a bit after the homeless man incident, Satomi and I decided to grab a quick bite to eat (pizza and a salad… both quite nice) before splitting up and both of us having a bit of “me” time. Satomi continued to shop, and I headed back to the hotel to freshen up and check some emails before the events of the evening. Before long we were both freshened up and out the door to pay a visit to Satomi’s uncle. And it was here that I experienced my first (and, alas, only) rock star moment in Japan.

From the moment I stepped into Uncle’s (Ojisan) house, I knew things were going to be a little strange. Firstly, and for the first time in Japan, I was offered “house slippers” to use after taking off my shoes… only to find that my freakishly large clod-hoppers (well, by Japanese standards) has no way of fitting into them. That wasn’t the strangest part, however, as moments after having my feet stared at like the obvious freaks of nature they were, I was greeted by a cacophony of shrieks, screeches and hyperventilating reserved for the likes of The Beatles. It seems Satomi’s younger 2 cousins (both girls) were genuinely very excited about meeting a real life foreigner… a foreigner in their own house, no less! Ohmygawdohmygawdohmygaw OHMYGAAAAWWWDDD!!!! Yep. That’s about how it felt, too, as 2 post teenaged girls worked themselves into a gusset wetting frenzy just by my simple presence. I’ve always had a secret dream to be one of those faint-inducing rockstars and have the world at my beck and call… but if this was anything like what it felt like, then they could keep it to themselves. My usual disposition of being the understated centre of attention shirked and I just became plain understated and tried hard not to make any noises or sudden movements which threatened to elicit the same sort of response. After the initial reaction, however, the evening settled into something a bit more benign and casual. Before long, we were out the door and back to the hotel room for a little r and r.

The next day we woke early with a view to buggin out of Nagoya and on to Gifu pretty soon, but my little boy urges just wouldn’t let go. By 9am, we were standing on the platform at Nagoya station and I was wide eyed and buzzing with excitement as I watched bullet train after bullet train pull in and push out of the station. It was great to finally see them up close, including the cute little rituals the immaculately uniformed drivers performed as they changed shifts. After my little boy was satisfied, we choofed off to the highway and made the relatively short and painless trip to Gifu.

Gifu was the last of the planned introductions on the trip, but my oh my, what an introduction! Satomi had organized to meet three of her old college friends at once over lunch. The plan seemed pretty harmless, until they all arrived with their brood of toddlers. Seriously, I have no idea how these people do it. Every conversation took place while the other person was distracted by removing something from a kids’ mouth, or removing the kids hand from somewhere it shouldn’t have been. While certainly entertaining and fun to watch, I was more eager than ever than ever to get back in the car and have Satomi point it in the general direction of west and get back to the relative sanity of the rice farm and the Nagai family. As the lunch drew to a close and the formalities and pleasantries completed (including the traditional custom of present engaged couples with ornate packages containing money… a custom I am still not entirely comfortable with), we did get my wish and before long we were staring down the sunset and hurling down the highway towards home.

Driving back into the Nagai household driveway was a really weird experience for me. While I only arrived a couple of days ago, the feeling I got when I saw Nana (the dog) jump up in excitement at our return, and Otosan beaming with a huge grin and a wave… I truly felt we were “home”. The Nagai family had been so welcoming and accepting and loving to me that I immediately felt part of the family. It wasn’t something I was keenly aware of when I was first there a few days ago, but driving back in after a couple of days away it truly hit home how much of a part of their lives I had become, and vice versa. It was then that my heart began to sink a little, as I knew that in just a few days from now, I would be leaving this place, leaving them behind, and taking their little girl with me...

Travel Diary - August 26-28

2007-09-16T12:09:00.000+10:00

Days 5, 6 and 7: Inami, Kanazawa, Toyama

The next few days were spent hanging out around the Inami farmhouse. We ran errands to neighbouring cities to sort everything out for Satomi’s imminent departure from Japan, as well as experiencing some of the world-famous Japanese craziness.

Sunday kicked off with the usual cooked breakfast, before sitting down cross legged in the living room with Satomi and Otosan (Dad). The night before, we caused a minor furore by blithely and rather arrogantly (in hindsight) blurting out to the family over dinner that we were getting married, and showing off the ring. While it was no secret at all within the Nagai family what was happening, we totally underestimated Otosan’s conservativeness and traditional leaning. While initially I was quite taken aback by his aggressiveness and the argument that followed, I soon relented and realised that despite the age we lived in, this was still his home, still his country and still his first daughter that we were talking about. We decided to drop the subject that night and revisit it properly the next morning, without the emotional affects of the vast amounts of alcohol we had both consumed.

So here we were, Satomi and I sitting across from Otosan and trying to negotiate our way through this cultural maze. Through tears, Satomi was able to translate my words of love and happiness and my request to have his permission to marry his little girl. A long heartfelt speech followed from Otosan, which roughly translated to a blessing. He granted permission for me to marry Satomi and welcomed me to the Nagai clan with a deep bow and a two-handed, firm hand shake.

With the formalities over with, we set about the day. We made a quick, but all encompassing, tour of Satomi’s Important Places, including her schools and workplaces over the years. Ending up in the cobble-stone streets of the Inami township proper, we scaled the steps to the town’s huge temple – the Inami Betsuin Zuisen-ji Temple, originally built in 1390 before being destroyed by fire (there’s a theme amongst temple fires… ancient Japanese people were pyros, I tell ya) and rebuilt in 1885. It’s huge sloping roof was certainly impressive, but boredom of old buildings was still active, so we decided to climb the slight hill to the festival which Inami is known for world wide (I’m not kidding!) the Inami International Wooden Sculpture Camp 2007. Sure, wood sculptures probably wouldn’t rate too high on my list of cultural activities… but this stuff was impressive. Held every 4 years, the invitation-only camp brings together the world’s best wood sculptors in the one place.

We wandered around, checking out the progress of each artist, before stopping for a long chat with Zambian artist Flinto Chandia. Satomi volunteered as an interpreter during the first couple of days during the camp, being teamed up with Flinto. The brief chat revealed a couple of interesting facts, including that this man is pretty widely known in artistic circles, and is responsible for the pieces of public art on show in the foyers of some or Europe’s biggest banks. The enlightening chat over, the sunburn started to severely kick in, so we hightailed it out of the park and down to the local sports oval for something even more enlightening… the community sports day.

I can’t even begin to explain to you how bizarre this thing is. Almost the entire community turns out for this regular event, which is a mix of school sports carnivals (complete with team colours!) and drunken work Christmas party games (minus the drink). Both Okasan and Otosan were competing in various games, which are hard to describe on paper… but you probably wouldn’t believe me anyway. To give you some idea – the first game involved a team of people running up one at a time to dress their team leader in an array of clothing to basically make him look like a 1940s German housewife. I’m NOT joking.

So anyway, after the 2 most cultural disparate events, we trailed home via the supermarket to get ingredients for the family dinner I was cooking up that evening (the oh-so-Aussie spag bol!). The next two days were very uneventful, running errands around Kanazawa and Toyama cities, as well as spending some quality time around the Nagai house and getting to know the family more – through a round of the ubiquitous card game Uno. As much as we probably should have been sight seeing and doing the tourist thing, we were both very happy to spending time with the family and basically relaxing. Besides, the next 3 days were shaping up to be pretty exhaustive with a road trip to the other side of the country.

Travel Dairy - August 25

2007-09-03T09:08:00.000+10:00

Day 4: Inami, Noto, Fuchuno

Today was a big day in the Nagai household, with a huge birthday lunch being planned for Otosan’s 60th. While his birthday was actually in May, the family decided to hold off the celebrations until I arrived, which was sweet. The event was being held at a hotel on the Noto Peninsula, about 2 hours drive away. So we piled into a couple of cars, and picked up Satomi’s grandma and uncle on the way.

The hotel itself was very opulent. Beautiful Japanese water features greeted us throughout the sprawling complex, as we were led into a sort of waiting room to drink tea, have a smoke and a chat. Before long, the lunch room was ready and we were led in. What great me was a table completely full to overflowing of small dishes comprising almost every fish product known to man. After the formalities (speeches, pictures, etc), we got down to some serious eating. From lobster, to crab, to sashimi, to pumpkin tofu, to all manner of pickles, the food varied from “interesting” to just plain delicious. Accompanied by an ever-flowing supply of beer and sake (thanks to Grandma, who was insistent on me getting pissed), the day was thoroughly enjoyed by all. I did, however, slightly offend Otosan by refusing to go to the onsen (steam bath) with him. I had resolved before coming to Japan that onsen were not really my cup of tea: while I consider myself to be fairly open-minded and comfortable enough with my body to be naked, I resolutely decided I did not want to be naked around my father in law. Just not my cup of tea.

Satomi’s grandma was, as they always are, very sweet. A gentle, charming old lady, she was keenly interested in Australian life, and fired question after question at me through Satomi about where I lived, and all manner of details about my life at home. Little did I realize it at the time, but she had presented Satomi with a very large sum of money a couple of weeks back… sort of pre-payment for all of the special moments and events in our lives that she will unfortunately miss out on due to us being in Australia. One feeling I couldn’t shake, and still can’t, is the desire to have Satomi’s grandma, and my grandma, sit in a room for an afternoon and have a natter over endless cups of tea about their respective lives. Both are around the same age, and would have had some interesting comparisons about their experiences. I’m not sure if that would ever be possible, but it would be great to see.

Anyway, we headed back to Inami and settled back to home life. As we sat down for dinner, Satomi and I decided now was the time to officially tell the family of our wedding plans and show them the ring. Unfortunately, Otosan has downed a few beers by this stage and was a little drunk… he did not like or appreciate the way we had gone about this. He wanted to be asked in the traditional way for his permission to marry his daughter. Realising we’d stuffed up, we decided to leave the matter go for the night, and approach it the next morning with soberness. So we headed off to the next little town, Fuchuno, where a cute little hippy festival was on. Much the same as hippy festivals in Aus, it offered a range of homemade novelties and foods, as well as some cool music. Certainly not something I thought I’d see in country Japan.

Travel Diary - 24 August

2007-09-02T18:57:00.000+10:00

Day 3: Kyoto to Inami

The day started off well, rose to great in the middle, descended into absurdity, chaos and mayhem (mixed with a fairly liberal sprinkling of extreme discomfort) and ended with pleasantness. Let me explain.

We kicked off with a short bus ride up to Kinkakuji Temple, a huge sprawling Golden Temple built originally in the 1220s as a “holiday home” for the emperor. And while I’m sure it was a great place for him to visit, what, with its walls made of solid gold leaf and all, unfortunately now it has descended into tourist madness. Sure, all of the temples and shrines in Japan probably have an element of the tourist drive behind them, but the others we visited seemed to understate the importance of the yen and focused instead on the cultural significance. Not the Golden Temple. Its gaudy golden façade was only exceeded by the raw push for you to buy something. The path through the beautiful gardens surrounding the temple offered no places to sit and contemplate, and neither did the smatterings of gift shops surrounding. While I did enjoy the experience, it was not what I had hoped for from something so impressive, so we quick-stepped to the bus stop for the short trip down the hill to Ryoanji Temple.

After a quick stop off to wash our hands before meeting god (it’s what you do, apparently) we entered the building and made our way to the western porch to sit and contemplate arguably the world’s most famous dry raked gardens. Despite the tourists dotted around us, the Zen garden was blissfully peaceful and offered us a glimpse into the simple joys and pleasures of the uniformity of the Japanese culture. While deep in contemplation, I decided now was the time and place for the “official proposal”. As I fished the ring from my pocket, I briefly entertained the thought of going down on one knee, but since we were both sitting on our bums, it seemed a bit pointless. Luckily, she said “Yes” and even more luckily the ring fit. So, we excused ourselves from the Zen moment and left the temple more official in the eyes of everyone as an engaged couple. Now it was just a matter of telling or asking the family!

Before that, however, was one of the most harrowing traveling experiences I’ve ever had. While this was my first overseas trip, I do consider myself a seasoned traveler, and have covered the length of Australia many times over. I’ve been faced with floods, heatwaves, severe storms, even the coldest day or record, while in transit and have dealt with it all. I’ve numbed my bum on countless 30-hour bus rides up and down the east coast without experiencing anything more than pleasure. But the train ride from Kyoto to Toyama to make it to Satomi’s house was one of the most awful and has gone down in Ben folklore as a story to tell for some time. And it was by far the worst possible way of preparing for the meeting of the in-laws!

In the spirit of economy, we booked non-reserved seats for the train journey. Which was fine, I thought, as we’d just have to sit anywhere and may not get to sit together. It was not to be, however, as Japan Railways must have decided to base their business model on the Indian Rail network and overbook the entire non-reserved carriages. While we lined up at least 30 minutes in advance, by the time we got onto the carriage, every single seat was taken and we were forced to stand in the cramped doorway, with all of our bags and belongings. What made it worse, was the fact that there was no air-conditioning, and the sun was setting on the same side of the train we were cramped into. After a day of sight-seeing, it was not the most pleasantly smelling place in the world.

My fear mechanism kicked pretty quickly, and I had to focus all of my energy to not going absolutely nuts and scaring the hell out of everyone around me. Unfortunately, poor Satomi wore the brunt of my stress attack and we settled into a 2 hour silent journey from hell. As the stations wore on, the people thinned out, but not in the no smoking section. A couple of seats became available in the smoking carriage, but even as a smoker I couldn’t deal with the stinging eyes and lack of oxygen, so I retreated back to the relative comfort of the doorway.

Thankfully, the journey wasn’t a terribly long one, and before long it was over and I could again relax. Squeezing into Satomi’s cute little 4-wheel-drive, we patched up our previous argument just in time to meet the in-laws. That in itself was not as stressful or uncomfortable as I first feared, with her family immediately welcoming me to their home and their lives. Even with the language difficulties, we managed to bond over a beautiful dinner and great alcohol and chatted into the night.

I also fell deeply in love with Satomi’s home. An old, worn traditional Japanese farm house, it is, for want of a better term, very lived in. It basically comprises of 2 segments, the actual living areas, which are tattered and torn and stocked to the roof with stuff, as well as the formal side, which is pristine and gorgeous and very traditional. Built about the same time as European settlement of Australia, it hadn’t changed much apart from some room additions and cosmetic touch ups. It is a rambling house with curious little nooks and crannies and by no means of any similarity to any western house I’ve been to. Satomi was worried and stressed before I got here, as she felt that I would not like what she sees as dirtiness or messiness. On the contrary, I felt immediately at home and have loved hanging out here. The 4 buildings are bordered on all sides by rice fields, which by this time of the year are long, but not long enough to harvest.

Making me feel even more at home has been Satomi’s family. Okasan (Japanese for Mum) and Otosan (Dad) have been extremely welcoming and loving, and have immediately taken me into the family. While Satomi has been a little frazzled as the only bi-lingual person in the house, we have still managed to have some great conversations and bonding moments over the dinner table. Otosan, a notorious drinker, is also a very easy drunk and tends to err on the side of caution. He has been challenging me drink for drink of beer-u, scotch and sake almost every night we’ve been here, but has had to bow out early in deference to my superior liver. Or something like that. Maybe he just doesn’t want me to make a fool of myself by getting slavishly drunk… who knows?

Travel Diary - 23 August

2007-09-02T17:30:00.000+10:00

Day 2: Kyoto.

The morning broke, and I was so happy to be waking up next to my girl. And knowing that I will be doing the same thing for the rest of my life, made me so happy. I know, it sounds soppy and romantic, but there is nothing more special that opening your eyes and seeing the person who means so much to you, laying there next to you. It was made even more special by the fact that it was in her country, and that it followed a period of separation. But enough of the soppy stuff, let’s get on with the day.

Kyoto was Satomi’s choice of place, over Osaka. It’s considered the romantic heart of Japan, and was mercifully sheltered from US bombing during WWII after the intervention of one of the architects of the H-bomb mission, Harry Stimson, due to its “cultural significance”. The results are fascinating, with the old world charm being retained even today, and being witnessed with the tiny, almost impossibly, small streets and alleyways.

We wandered back to Kyoto Station in daylight this time, and were greeted by the sights of tiny little Zen gardens attached to the archetypal Japanese house. The scene would have been totally out of Karate Kid, if not interrupted every 50metres or so by a vending machine. I had been warned about the vending machines, but didn’t realize they permeated this much. Selling mostly cold drinks and cigarettes, the machines are well frequented and are seriously omni-present. But the cute factor does wear off pretty quickly, and they almost fade away into the accepted streetscape.

We targeted a few key areas today for our sight-seeing mission, with the public transport system being cheap and relatively easy to negotiate (albeit, constantly packed). We headed immediately out to Sanjusangen-do, a massive temple built in 1164, but completely refurbished in 1266 after a fire. The huge temple building is about as long as a football field, and inside it boasts 1001 statues of the Buddhist deity. Unfortunately, no pictures were allowed inside. Which is, I suppose, fortunate, as the photo opportunities were vast. After a while, though, the novelty wore off and the gold statues became just “an attraction”. We departed and made our way to Gion – a cute little shopping and restaurant district noted for its intricate and confusing alleyways and home to the traditional heart of the geisha. We even spotted some who could have been true maiko, but there are also a fair smattering of fakes for the tourists. As we sat down to my first Japanese meal, I was greeted by an omelette-like pancake concoction, filled with fishy, slimey, runny, raw things. Not in itself all that disgusting, but very hard to deal with with my limited chop-sticking abilities.

With lunch over, we decided to brave the humidity and head south towards the beautiful Fushimi Inari-Taisha Shrine, which was established in 711 as a means for bringing luck and fortune to businesses. The shrine itself is unimportant, but behind it is a mass of torii (red arch-type things) which line the path up a hill. There are literally thousands of these things, with the sun shining though giving the path a beautiful glow and a cool respite from the oppressiveness of the humidity. The two digital cameras were working overtime at this point.

After the calm, we headed back to downtown Kyoto for a wander around, before retreating to the air-conditioned hotel to ready ourselves for dinner. Satomi’s grandma had kindly handed her some money before the trip to ensure we went to a proper Japanese restaurant as a welcoming gift from her to me. And what a feast! After wandering around Gion on at night, searching for an authentic Japanese dining experience (plus also trying to catch a glimpse of a geisha scurrying around in the shadows), we settled on a tiny, nondescript doorway of a restaurant called Rumble. Despite the name, we were treated as kings from the moment we stepped inside. Seating ourselves at the bar table, we enjoyed the experience of the chef/cook preparing the 9-course meal. It was an experience I will never forget, and all for the right reasons. While the menu consisted of things that even thinking about them now makes my stomach churn (yes, I did eat sweet-fish innards… and liked it!) it was the “vibe” which truly took the cake. My first proper meal in Japan, and enjoying it in such great company and with the love of my life holding my hand throughout… who could ask for more? If this was the style of Japan, then I never want to leave.

Travel diary - August 22

2007-09-02T16:38:00.000+10:00

So here we are, day 11 of a 13 and a half day Japanese adventure. It’s hard at this point to be removed enough from the experience to explain how I am feeling, but it’s certainly on the “happy times” side of the ledger. Today (Sunday, September 2) is the last full day and night we are spending with Satomi’s family, so it’s a time filled with a subtle, but very present, air of sadness. We’re not sad to be going home and starting our new lives together, but we are sad to be saying good bye to the Nagai clan. And so, being so close to the end, it’s probably the most appropriate time to begin what I should have started about 10 days ago – a blog diary. It will be long, it will probably bore some of you to tears, but at least it will be documented.

Day 1 (22 August): Brisbane Airport, Brisbane to Sydney, Sydney to Osaka, Osaka to Kyoto.

An early riser, I had no troubles at all getting up and packing and readying myself for a full 18 hours of almost constant traveling. Much to Satomi’s angst, I only ever pack on the day I leave – a sort of ritual. My theory is that if there’s something I leave behind, I really don’t need it. So, the packing done, the amenities utilized and the passport, wallet and tickets in the pocket, it was off to the great sky adventure.

Beforehand, I had asked a lot of questions of seasoned international travelers I know in order to prepare myself for my first trip. Thinking I had everything sorted, I set off with confidence only to be met by the first obstacle – a traffic jam. No sweat, we’d allowed ourselves a little bit of buffer time, but it was eating into my precious gift buying schedule at the duty free shops. With 15 minutes to spare before check in closed, we arrived at the airport and the reality set it. And the reality repeated itself numerous times throughout the day – international travel is just about testing ones’ patience in slow-moving queues. No one told me about this! And, as anyone knows, I am not the most patient cookie in the cookie jar, so it was certainly a test. The check in queue was not to be the longest of the day, it turned out, but it was the most frustrating. And it was here that I resolved to seriously consider upgrading my well worn army duffel bag to a swish case with wheels. Stooping over constantly to pick up your bag only to set it down about 50cm further along the line was indeed tedious.

With check-in done, I power-shopped for a full 20 minutes (buying the essentials – another book, a magazine and some dodgy presents to give as omiyage in Japan), before joining yet another queue to get through immigration. This one was one of the most frustrating of the day – a snaking line about 10 deep, in a small, cramped and stuffy room. No conversation, no eye contact and certainly no line cutting. All of this, just for some surly looking matron to take a peek at my passport picture, then an almost derogatory sneer at my face to ensure the both matched. And I was through. A quick sit down was in order, before I was called to join the next queue to get on the plane. Being a round trip (Osaka-Brisbane-Sydney), the plane was already half full with the tourists heading for a holiday in Sydney. With an older Japanese lady sitting next to me, it was no major drama. She kept to herself and politely fell asleep in a tight ball facing away from me. And before I know it, we’re in the air and my trip has begun.

With nowhere near enough time to settle into the joys of plane travel, the descent starts and we hit the tarmac in Sydney. Even though it was the exact same plane, and the exact same seat for the next leg of the trip, Jetstar insisted everyone got off to go back through customs again. 2 more queues. The entire hour-long stopover in Sydney was spent in queues! I know it wasn’t their fault, but it just made me hate Sydney even more.

Getting back on the plane, I was the first on, and watched eagerly for the passenger destined to share the next 9 hours in my personal space. As the pilot called for the cabin crew to arm and cross-check the doors, the seat beside me remained vacant. I was a little disappointed that I wasn’t going to have a travel buddy, but that was until I discovered that the arm-rest raised up, giving me a full double seat to stretch out. The trip was relatively uneventful, and despite my best efforts with Scotland’s finest brew, I was unable to disgrace myself in the air Pete Townshend-style.

Descending to Kansai, the night was exploding all around as the heavens decided now was a good time for a bit of instability and lightening. “I can handle a few bumps,” I thought to myself, until one helluva splash of light outside my window, a stomach churning drop and witnessing the cabin crew almost running to the safety of their jump seats, had me leaving fingernail marks in the arm rests.

We smacked the tarmac hard and taxied for an eternity before the doors opened and I was greeted by what naturally accompanies the storm clouds outside – oppressive humidity. I mean, not just Brisbane humidity, but the type of humidity that you get in the wet tropics. The humidity that usually sees you stripped off to the waist, with wet towel wrapped around your forehead. It was certainly not the type of humidity that goes well with slacks, a t-shirt, an over shirt and boots. So, before I’d even reached the relative safety of the immigration queue, I was already searching for the nearest shower to strip off and cool my bones. But it was not to be, as I was faced with the queues to end all queues, as about 3 international flights arriving within the space of 5 minutes, saw the Kansai arrivals hall resemble a busy subway station at peak hour. And it was here that I made the fatal queuing error – I succumbed to queue envy. After arriving in the immigration line towards the front of my group of passengers, I jumped between what I perceived to be the fastest moving queues… and, yes, ended up being one of the last to be processed. But I got through the first check point without so much as even a cursory grunt or glance by the immaculately uniformed official. I headed downstairs, collected my familiar army duffel and was pleasantly surprised to see it still in one piece. Either the Japanese sniffer dogs were resting, or were put off by the other pungent odours that have accumulated in that bag during the past 15 years of hard traveling, to not notice that the last time I used it, it housed a small amount of a substance which would be enough to get me deported immediately. After declaring nothing, I wandered through the huge electronic doors and into the waiting arms of Satomi.

For 7 months we had been dreaming of this moment. I had never experienced it before: falling into the arms of your lover after being apart for some time. And while the hug was beautiful and sweet, it was tempered by the fact that public displays of affection are kind of frowned upon in Japan, as well as my own insecurities about my now dripping with sweat body. After a quick introduction with Rie, Satomi’s friend who had accompanied her to the airport, we set off for the ticket office to get the train to Kyoto. Walking into the office was the first, and probably only, real cultural shock moment of the trip. I had sort of “zoned out” to the sound of Japanese announcements and writing during the flight, so the sights and sounds of real life Japan didn’t really affect me. It was the smell inside the ticket office which struck me as the most cultural different between the two countries. It was a smell of stale, thousand-body sweat, mixed with the smell of stale, thousand-cigarette butts. For all its progress and development, Japan is still stuck in a time-warp (by our standards) of allowing smoking in almost every building and crevice in every part of the land. Even as a smoker, I am still finding it confronting to have someone smoke around me while dining (although, it hasn’t stopped me lighting up at the end of a meal!); and smoking on trains was to play a key part of one of the most horrendous travel experiences of my life to date (more to come on that later).

So we got out tickets, and headed for the train for the hour and a bit ride to Kyoto. The street lights whizzing by meant nothing to me, as I couldn’t stop touching and hugging and kissing the beautiful being who was sitting beside me. Before long, we arrived at Kyoto Station, and the short walk through the tiny little streets to the tiniest little hotel room. It was seriously small, with not even enough room to walk normally around the double bed. But I didn’t care, as I settled into the covers and wrapped my girl tightly around my body and said good-bye to the beginning day of a truly special time.

More pic madness

2007-09-02T11:07:00.001+10:00

Photobucket Album

Japan - the land which knows how to do highway rest stops right!

2007-08-31T23:26:00.000+10:00

Hi all,

Sorry for the lack of communication, but we've been living the Gonzo journalism maxim of living it to write about it. We've just arrived back at the Nagai household (now my second home) in Inami, after a 3-day round trip taking in Shizuoka, Nagoya and Gifu. While only a small trip distance wise in Australian terms, it was still very tiring and hard (even as the designated non-driver). The purpose of the trip was to visit heaps of Satomi's old friends, as well as her uncle. Japanese hospitality certainly came to the fore throughout the entire trip, with myself being welcomed as a part of the family to these complete strangers.

The trip itself was enlightening. Japan has a hugely complicated expressway system linking almost every major town and city. Boasting smooth roads and an impressive array of tunnels throught the mountains, it only came at a hefty price tag. Tolls along the way amounted to 7350 yen (about $75 Australian) one way! And it wasn't even particularly fast, with the gazetted speed limit at 80 for the majority of the trip. But, one thing the Japanese have excelled at is the fine art of the truck stop. No flash in the pan, glorified petrol station every couple of hundred kms here. No way. Every 30kms or so, you are greeted with a veritable smorgasboard of treats of the food variety, as well as every amenity under the sun. It's something that Australia should take note of!

Anyway, this is just a quick spot to update the progress. The next 3 days will be spent around the Nagai homestead as Satomi prepares to leave for ever. Monday night we board the night bus to Osaka, where we spend the day sight-seeing and omiyage buying, before jumping on the plane late Tuesday night.

Suffice to say, this has been one of the most amazing trips of my life so far. But I promise a much more detailed post (whether you like it or not) in the next few days to try to explain how.

Love yas,

Ben and Satomi XOXO

Rocken Inami town to the CORE!

2007-08-27T09:28:00.000+10:00

Hi all,

Wow. It's been an amazing past few days. Culture shock mixed with minor family dramas (just the usual meeting the in laws stuff) and some pretty nasty sunburn. Sorry I haven't been able to keep this updated regularly, but the Nagai household has been too much fun to drag myself away from!

I promise a more detailed post very soon. In the meantime, check out our pics below. I'll keep on uploading them often.

Love yas,
Ben and Satomi. XOXO

The Nagai Welcoming Party

2007-08-25T09:12:00.000+10:00

So I have arrived at the very special Nagai residence. It's been fun so far, even with the natural communication barriers. I think (although it's hard to tell) that I have passed the potential son-in-law test. Mind you, the bottles and scotch and sake for day and tea for mum helped to seal the deal, I think.

Getting here was no easy feat, however. We spent yesterday wandering around a couple more of Kyoto's special places - including the impressive (but very over-the-top) Kinkakuji Temple (also called the Golden Temple... as it's made out of gold, and all). We also popped over to Ryoanji Shrine, a very beautiful ancient Zen garden. The place was so beautiful that I decided to officially pop the question to Satomi - this time including the ring. Thankfully, she accepted!

After the temple-fest, we headed back to the sprawling Kyoto Station to get the Thunderbird train back to Kanazawa. Satomi, in her wisdom, decided to buy the cheaper "non reserved" tickets. "Fine, that's cool," I thought, envisaging nothing worse that the commuter crush I experience every morning on the way to work. Not to be, however. You see, "non reserved" in JR language actually means they sell about 30 more tickets than there are seats. Which meant that for the 2.5 hour trip, I had a choice between squeezing myself and my bags into a crapped exit doorway (which was not air-conditioned), or choking to death in the smoking carriage. Despite being a smoker, I baulked at having to spend the trip sucking down other peoples habits. So the sweaty doorway it was... but we got here ok.

Right now, the Nagai family is getting ready for a big outing to Noto to celebrate Yoshihiko's (Dad) 60th birthday. I will also get to meet the extended Nagai clan, as well as Grandma. Can't wait to once again be the centre of non-English speaking attention... paranoia much?

Love yas,
Ben

Kyoto - romantic heart of Nippon

2007-08-23T18:48:00.000+10:00

Hello all,

And as I say good-bye to my first full day in Japan, I'll just allude with this: $3 beers and smokes from vending machines in the lobby of the hotel have been welcomed as my one true love. Satomi comes a close, but very definite, 3rd place!

The day has been amazing. Kyoto is one of the most fascinating cities Ive had the joy in visiting. Too much to go into right now (mainly because I cant remember place names... and Japanese keyboards are really starting to tick me off), but suffice to say its been the Day of Temples and Shrines, mixed in with the randomness and craziness that only Japan can throw up at you. The only respite has been my faithful love Satomi holding my hand though every nook and cranny.

Tomorrow is the day of reckoning, however - another day of Special Place Visiting, combined with a 3 hour commute and a final test of character: The Meeting of The In-Laws. My very very limited Japanese has been tested today, but I just can't shake the feeling that people are bowing my way out of pity or disgust when I utter those pitiful phrases... tomorrow shall tell.

Thanks for all your kind words. I should be able to get some cool pics up in the next couple of days.

Love yas,

Ben

Japan!

2007-08-23T10:52:00.000+10:00

Hi kids! I made it... finally! After a days' worth of queuing (seriously... international travel is just a test of patience in queues, i'm sure) I finally made it to Osaka. After another hour's train travel, we arrived in Kyoto and crashed for the night in the world's smallest hotel suite.

And now we're off for a day of sight-seeing and melting in the extreme humidity. Can't wait. We'll check back in a couple of days to load some pics...

Love ya
Ben

Hi ho, hi ho, it's off to Nippon I go!

2007-08-21T18:19:00.000+10:00

So here we are, roughly 12 hours until I leave the Love Den for 2 weeks. Oh, and see my darling again. I really should be packing... but I've convinced myself that I have a billion other more important things to do. Like procrastination.

And it appears the "gods" are shining on our plans already. Some of you may recall that our initial plan was to have Satomi and I flying out to Australia together to start our new lives. We put the visa application in hoping it was time enough for them to assess it, but started losing heart last week as we hadn't heard from the Embassy. That was until Thursday evening when Satomi got a call from the Embassy requesting a tiny bit of extra info, which she promptly emailed to them. And, hey presto, Friday morning the visa was approved!!! Satomi's coming home with me! I can't begin to even allude to how absolutely ecstatic I am with this little turn of events. Now, we just have to hope that the rest of the planning marathon goes as smoothly.

So to the packing... hmmm, nah. I'm sure there's more worthwhile things on facebook to get interested in.

Ciao!

This time next week...

2007-08-15T12:29:00.000+10:00

It's one of the strangest feelings in the world. Sure, most of you have probably already had this feeling sometime in your life - one week away from your first overseas trip. One week away from seeing the love of your life again. One week away from meeting the in-laws. One week away from everything I do in my daily life being totally different... if only for a couple of weeks!

So, we've reached this far. It really didn't seem like that long ago in many respects that I kissed Satomi good-bye at the international airport. 7 months ago, Satomi and I were contemplating life apart. What would it be like? How would we cope? Could we cope? Satomi had been in a long-distance relationship before, so knew the dramas and pitfalls. I'd never experienced more than 2 weeks away from a lover before, so it was all new and worrying for me.

But we've coped, I think. Well, the fact that we're still together and still very much in love means that we must have coped well. It's been tough... some things we've had to face apart have been been heart-wrenching. But we've also had some truly special and beautiful moments, as well. Like our "dates" online... where we'd both watch the same movie on our computers, while being connected via MSN. Or just the simple pleasures of making each other laugh by being silly... These moments will be missed, I'm sure. But, when you've got the real thing... it's soooo much better.

So that's where it's at. Keep tuned to this blog if you wanna keep updated on my travels (or check out my facebook page). I'm bubbling with excitement right now and can't shake the smile off my face...

2 weeks =14days to go!

2007-08-08T22:47:00.000+10:00

Guess what!!!?! It's 2 weeks to go until I get to see Ben again!!
Yes, He is coming to Japan/Toyama in 2 weeks. We both can't tell enough how excited we are as it's been 7 months since we've been apart.
Having thought about the days of 7months ago, it was nightmare...
Now...Yay! Yay! Yay! :D
Ben and I have been talking about his first (oversea) trip to Japan, where to go-what to see - how to spend time and money.
So here is the rough itinerary of Ben's trip in Japan.

22nd Aug Brisbane - Osaka
23th Kyoto
24th Kyoto - Inami/Toyama
25th My dad's bday celebration on Noto
26th-29th Inami-Takaoka-Kanazawa (based in at my house)
30th Shizuoka
31st Aishi-Gifu
1st-3rd Sep Toyama
4th Osaka - Brisbane

Unfortunately, I haven't heard about my visa from the embassy yet..still been 7weeks since I submitted.So just fingers cross and wish us luck.
When it will all work out, I will be able to fly back to Brisbane with him !!!

Satomi xxx

Finally lodged the visa application !!

2007-06-24T13:46:00.000+10:00

Recent Ben and Me

First of all, THANK YOU SO MUCH for all your support on my visa appllication.
16th June, I finally posted it to the Australian Embassy in Tokyo.
Ben and I are releaved to proceed the first step successfully even we haven't heard anything from the Embassy. Yes, it's still the first step as we've got lots to do in the future.
For now, fingers cross- the application to be assessed smoothly so that we can fly back to Brisbane together in early September.
And then, we are very excited to organise Ben's trip in Japan and me going back to Australia. This time, I am not planning to come home in Japan for a very long time, thus it'd be pretty sad and teary departure for me and my family. But we know it'll be all good eventually.
And we should start talking and planning about our wedding concretely.

Anyway,I will announce when my Prospective Marriage visa is granted.
Thanks again,Steve, Blair, Jinna, Catherine, Amy and my sweet darling;Ben.

Love
Satomi xxx

Random pic

2007-05-02T22:00:00.000+10:00

The happy family! Well, Satomi's legs and me with my beautiful. Oh, how I miss them both.

Visa? What Visa? Oooohhh, THAT one!

2007-05-02T20:41:00.000+10:00

Yes... Visa, visa, visa. You know, there was a time not so long ago when I was genuinely confused as to what a credit card company had to do with being able to visit another country. Yep, it's true (although, i probably just let slip how worldly daft I once was). But now, the word visa brings up in my mind images of a hell filled with a million and one check-boxes, mountains and mountains of paper, and the never-ending search for a reliable Justice of the Peace to witness everything (does anyone else ever get nervous when presenting paper to JPs to sign... like, fearing the may not actually sign it for some arcane and bureaucratic reason??? No? Oh, it's just me then...)

The good news, however, is that we're a lot closer to actually getting it all sorted and submitted. Well, to be more correct in the reference to 'we' there - it's actually just me. Due to some strange twist of fate, I've been able to resist most procrastination-ary distractions and completed something relatively on time. Satomi, on the other hand, is slowly crumbling under the weight of her own beauracritic governmental system; which, I'm glad to say, seems as daft and devoid of logic as our own.

So what, precisely, are the hoops that Mr Australian Government is making us jump through in order to allow Satomi to live in Australia so that we can get married and live happily ever after? Well, as you can imagine, it all starts with a form. Oh no, not just one... one each! The forms are pretty standard Australian Government fair, apart from one particular question which struck me as a bit silly. "Q74 - Did you enter into this relationship with your partner solely to gain permanent residence in Australia?" Now, I know I'm not the quickest of wits, but I doubt anyone would be so flippant with this process to actually mark Yes to that question. But you never know, and it's worth the asking to weed out the particularly dim of our prospective Australian residents. Actually, it reminds me of a question we were told to ask when someone called the newspaper with a bomb threat after September 11: "Where are you right now? What is your full name and address?". I've never had the documentary evidence to prove it, but was reliably informed by the friendly HR manager administering that training session, that it sometimes works! Wow... the sophistication of the criminal mind, hey? But I digress...

So the form... Check. Well, actually no, not check. Haven't even looked through it, really. But it doesn't look that taxing.

Next up we have to prove our identities and residence status. Not as easy as it sounds... well, not for me. You see, I've never had a real birth certificate, just a birth certificate extract. Which did me well up until I need to get my passport (which I needed not only for this visa, but also my trip). So on the bold mission I went into my fist foray of Australian Government bureaucracy in order to gain all the necessary pieces of paper that tell me and other people that I actually exist. I won't bore you with all the details, but needless to say that it resulted in numerous requests to "provide additional information", and a number of fiery run ins with Australia Post workers. But, I have the A4 piece of encrypted paper stating that I was born, and fingers crossed, I will have the little blue booklet letting me cut the apron strings to the motherland in my hot little hands shortly.

Satomi is facing her own task, having to have the equivalent of her birth certificate (I think they call it a family register, or something like that) completely translated into English. In addition to this, she also has to prove she is of "good character and heath" in order to have the visa accepted. This involves getting police and medical checks done. Sounds simple when you put it like that, doesn't it? I can assure, it's nothing but easy. As we speak, paper work is flying back and forwards around Nippon as various government departments decide if Satomi is, indeed, "of good character".

In addition to all of that, we also have to prove that our relationship exists and is genuine. This is an absolutely awesome task and, at this moment, just a bundle of messed up papers sitting beside my desk. So far, we have gathered witness statements and identity documents (yes, apparently only Australian Residents are allowed to judge if Satomi is fit to be a fellow country-man) from 3 friends, with 2 more currently on the way. Along with a few Christmas and Engagement Cards sent to us, this should prove the "social aspects" part of the deal. We also have to have financial proof - so I have included bank statements from the joint account we opened in January, as well as money transfer receipts. We also have to show proof of the "nature of the household"... as Satomi and I lived together as flatmates before this amazing adventure began, this shouldn't be too hard, right? Oh no, it is. You see, I don't have a lease - well, nothing written down anyway. Just a gentleman's agreement between the landlord and I. Also, as Satomi was only going to be here for 9 months, we decided just to keep all the utilities bills in my name, to save the hassle. So, in actual fact, we have no hard evidence that Satomi and I actually lived together, apart from some odd bank statements that were sent to her here. To meet this requirement, I've secured a statement from the landlord confirming Satomi's existence at the Love Den, and his knowledge of our living arrangements. Also, a few people have mentioned our living arrangements in their statements to us. That should suffice... we hope.

Last part of the proving our relationship is showing evidence of our commitment to each other. This is hard - apart from the obvious proof of actually getting engaged and intending to be married... how do you "prove" this aspect? Apart from mentioning our future plans heavily in our History of the Relationship documents, we don't think we can do much more. Apart from attaching records of our nightly MSN chats, morning telephone calls and daily emails - this should prove that we've been in almost constant contact with each other since she left. There's plenty of all of those, so maybe the assessing officer will get a kick out of flicking through them, voyeuristically.

And that brings us nicely on to the next part of visa application. We both have to write our own "History of the Relationship". Satomi has already started on hers, but I am yet to. This is basically a written free-for-all where you can indulge your ego a little and wax lyrical about the events and feelings that have led to this momentous occasion (much like this blog, really). We're being all creative with this and adding heaps of photos and funny little stories from our times as flatmates and then as a couple. We'll also be attaching records from our trip to Byron Bay together in November, as well as records of my trip to Japan in August - this should show that we're serious. One thing does fill me with dread with this History part... I'm in two minds as to whether to be brutally honest in explaining how I proposed, or to embellish it a little? I proposed while we were lying in bed one morning on a lazy weekend morning... need spicing up, do you think?

And the final thing we need to do is prove that we're actually going to get married. I've now met with two marriage celebrants and have registered with one. So we have the Notice of Intent to Marry, as well as a letter from her confirming that she has been booked to do the wedding. Done.

Phew... I'm exhausted! And this is just for the application! Goodness knows how many more hoops they'll invent for us to jump through while they're assessing the application. In amongst this, we're also planning Ben's Big Adventure to Nippon (also titled Ben's Big First Overseas Journey). We've sort of delayed planning the wedding at this stage (by delayed, we've just stopped talking about it... there's waaaayyy too many things to do before that nut gets opened) and also some tentative plans for The Big Move to Melbourne, which we're hoping will happen close to the end of the Wedding Madness.

So thanks for reading, and I promise, we'll get to the good mushy romantic tales of how we sustain our relationship while being hemisphere's away from each other shortly. I promise - technology these days will have you flabbergasted! We've even had real "online" dates!!! Gone to gigs and the movies and everything.

But next time...
Love ya.

Ps - Oh, we're both doing fine. Although Satomi's got a cold at the moment, but is enjoying the week long bludge-fest Japanese-style, which is also called Golden Week (basically a week of public holidays back to back... not even us legendary public holiday bludgers here in Oz are that genius... yet!)

The months are now flying by...

2007-03-22T18:23:00.000+10:00

We celebrated another little milestone today... our minus one year wedding anniversary! In exactly one year, we will finally be a married couple! I'll have a wife! She'll have a husband! Scary stuff... but not really.

We've been apart for nearly 2 months now, and while it's still hard to be separated, day to day life is kind of getting to normal again. We're both settling into our relationship via the internet (bless MSN and webcams!) and we're getting to the business end of the visa application.

For those who've never been involved in visa applications, I'll give you a quick run down of what we're doing. We're applying for a Prospect to Marry Visa first: this means Satomi can enter Australia to marry me, as long as it's done in 9 months (the Visa's only valid for 9 months). As soon as we're married, we apply for a Spouse Visa. The Spouse Visa will apply for 2 years, before we are re-assessed and, if it's all still cool with Mr. Australian Government, Satomi gets a Temporary Permanent Resident Visa ("Temporary Permanent"??? Yeah... oxymoron is not a term the Gov is familiar with!). Then (still with us?) after 2 or 4 years, she will be allowed to be a Permanent Resident... I'm not sure when she will be allowed to become a citizen (if she even wants to, that is).

But anyway... that's ages down the track. Right now, we're focussed on the Prospect to Marry Visa. It's a rather involved and detailed process - but basically in addition to proving that we actually exist, and filling out all the correct forms and stuff, we also have to prove that our relationship is real and legitimate. Which, in itself, is a huge task.

Let me break it down for you. They are primarily interested in 4 key areas of our relationship that we have to prove: financial aspects; the nature of the household; the social context of the relationship; and our commitment to each other. Each area has to be supported by documentation, not just statements. We're working on them now, with a view to having all the paperwork ready to go by the end of April (ish?). It may also explain why I've been bugging some of you to send us Engagement Cards, filling out Statutory Declarations and such. Every little bit helps!

Of course, we have to also have a wedding planned. Which I am attempting to start in the midst of all this mayhem. I visited a celebrant last week, but we're not sure if we'll book her yet (she seems a bit expensive). I've also begun preparations for booking the place for the ceremony and reception (well... I'll be honest... "begun preparations" means I've been thinking about it... not much action, yet!). For those who need to plan their social lives one year in advance (and who think they're going to be invited!) we're planning on Saturday, March 22. I'm trying to convince Satomi of an early morning wedding, followed by a light brunch and some serious day-time drinking... how do you think my chances are? Luckily for me, we're both on the same page about what type of wedding we want: simple, no fuss, no worries. Basically, a quick beautiful ceremony, followed by some serious bonding with our chosen close friends and family. Unfortunately for reasons out of their control, Satomi's parents won't be able to make it - but her brother and sister, as well as her grandma are hoping to be here. Which should be really sweet.

Actually, while I'm on weddings, I have found some interesting facts about our commercialised world. One: when you register your details on a wedding website - don't ever put your real street address down! Within days of registering, my mailbox was literally overflowing with brochures, booklets, cards... basically paper products made into every concievable shape and size with pretty pictures and the "hard sell" labelled all over them (thanks soooo much, my darling Satomi!). Two - it's surprisingly simple to book a section of our "public parks" for a private function. Which in this case, I'm really pleased about... but don't get me talking about the philosophy of public places and how they're readily allowed to be screened off for private purposes. Three: I have no idea what an engagement ring is and how it differs from other rings. Sure, I know what a wedding band is and how that's fundamentally different... but how is an engagement ring different from a normal ring? And don't say price - that's obvious! And I don't think it's necessarily because I'm a guy... even most girls I've asked haven't been able to tell me.

So anyway, that's sort of where we're at right now. We're fairly well down the track of getting everything sorted for the visa. We've begun thinking about the wedding in a specific sense, and my trip to Japan in August is looming large (hopefully with the help of an SMS promotion through the new mX newspaper in Brisbane offering the chance to win a flight for 2 to Osaka! Fingers crossed!!!). Our relationship is actually strengthening, even through this physical separation. Not to make you all sickly or anything, but we're so in love that it makes me the happiest person on earth sometimes. And we seemed to have come out of our recent very tough predicament still together and close... I feel we'll be able to survive anything now.

Anyway... thanks for reading. Thanks for caring and thanks for your love and support so far. And as you probably know from reading the above... you'll all be needed in the weeks and months to come, I can assure you!

Love,
Ben

2007-02-18T01:18:00.000+10:00

It’s our 3 month anniversary today. Wow, only 3 months? We were just marvelling at it while chatting on MSN. It feels much, much longer than that, to both of us.

You can sort of understand why it feels longer though – in the space of 3 months, we have developed and cemented our relationship to one that is strong and that has already survived a couple of tough times.

For those who don’t know – I’ll give you a little snapshot of who we are. I am Ben, I’ve just turned 30 years old, and I’m from Brisbane, Australia. Satomi has just turned 33 and is originally from Inami, Japan. We met on cyberspace just briefly through my best mate, Steve, who lived in Japan for 3 years. Satomi decided to study English in Australia, choosing Brisbane to be close to her best mate Catherine. Steve introduced us and suggested Satomi move into my spare room for the 10 months or so she was planning to be here.

So April 2006 came, and Satomi became a co-lover in the Albion Love Den (my place – long story), along with my large-headed cat Potsie. The first few months saw us bond over food, crappy 80s music and long drunken talk fests in the Love Den. The cultural and social difficulties meant we surfed a ‘tolerance’ friendship, which developed in time to a deep, close connection. Pretty soon, our social lives became entwined, with each of us being the ‘plus one’ for the others’ parties, barbecues and drinking sessions. It was inevitable, but I developed a crush on her.

I tried to suppress the feeling, not wanting to make her feel uncomfortable in her short time in Brisbane. One day, she began to tell me about a couple of dates she’d been on recently… and it was hurting me to hear about them. It was then that I realised my ‘crush’ was something more. A period of trying to deny my feelings followed, before I could hold it in no longer and told her how I felt. It wasn’t immediately reciprocated, but within a couple of weeks, we were going out on a ‘date’ (how do you go out on a date when you live together already?). While the period afterwards was a bit of a blur of stolen glances, meaningful gestures and trying to also be ‘normal’ flatmates, we decided that November 17 would be the official beginning of our relationship.

We knew each other so well, and connected so deeply right from the start, that it was a matter of weeks before we recognised that we were actually in love with each other. That quickly developed into a realisation that we were each other’s ‘one’. We knew we felt the same about life, about the world, about where we wanted to go in life. And, after a couple of blissful months, I proposed. She accepted, gleefully, and we set about planning the rest of our lives together.

Everything would be perfect now, apart from one small problem. Her student visa expired on January 22, 2007. She had to go back to Japan! And 3 weeks ago tomorrow, I watched her beauty disappear down the escalator at the Brisbane International Airport, and out of my life (physically) for the next 8 months. We decided that the time spent apart would be spent focussing on her coming back – applying for a Prospect to Marry Visa.

The timeline is long and involved, but essentially Satomi will be back in Australia in September 2007, and we will be married early in 2008. The time between now and then is spent developing a long distance relationship – thanks to email, MSN chat, webcams and internet phones (so cheap!). While we’re sort of getting used to it now, the initial couple of days were, as you can expect, absolute torture – I’ll let Satomi take up the story for the 2 days immediately after her departure…

Ben
17 February, 2007.

The parting - Satomi's travel diary

2007-02-18T01:17:00.000+10:00

21st January 07

Woke up the 10th morning as fiancée, and it was the day I had to leave my fiancé behind.

I had a kind of strange, complicated feeling which couldn’t describe properly. Finally the day was here – but I didn’t want to get up from the warm bed. At 6:30 I was up - took shower, put my make-up on, dried my hair, and packed everything (eventually). Steve showed up, Blair was the driver to the airport. I was hoping my suitcase was less than 20kg and said a temporary ‘good bye’ to the Albion Love Den.
“Thanks for having me for almost 9 months.”

Surprisingly, it only took me 20 minutes to get to the check-in counter. Catherine rang me that they are coming to see me off at the airport soon. Dragging my luggage to the counter, it was 19.4kg… phew! Ben walked back towards me with the Cosmo magazine in his hand, and a card was inside it…sweet. I knew that I’d be reading it with tears in my eyes. Catherine and Mao che arrived at the airport, and she gave me a beautiful present.

Then over the loud speaker came the boarding call for CI0054. At last, finally, it was time to say: “see you later for a while”, I “much appreciated” everyone there, and after a big hug and kiss to Ben, I had to go downstairs and through the Customs and security check. Gate 81 was right there, so I decided to sit in front of it and opened the gift from Catherine - a book about weddings, with a lovely message. Then I unsealed a silver envelope and opened a card - as soon as I looked at his handwriting, I felt it was full of love from all his heart. I had to stop reading to wipe my eyes once before finishing reading. We know we are so important to each other for the rest of our lives, which makes me step forward strongly and feel that I’m doing right thing.

Unfortunately the flight was delayed almost an hour. Eventually I got on the plane and found my seat next a lovely lady who was going on a holiday to the Philippines. On the plane were personal screens right in front of everyone’s seats, and it was quite high-tech - it took me a while to figure out how to use it. I watched half of “The Queen”, slept and started “Umi zaru”; Japanese one, arriving in Taipei halfway through “Superman Returns”.

It was raining and already dim at 5:30pm. The lady sitting next to me and I decided to go to the hotel together. We both wanted to go to the city - she wanted to shop, I wanted to meet up with my friends. But the hotel ( Miramar Golf Country Club) was a long way from the city and public transport, and a taxi was too expensive. Moreover, there was no internet connection and phone line as they said they were under construction, so that I couldn’t contact my Taiwanese friend, Jerry. As a result, we had a dinner at the hotel restaurant which was included the plane ticket.

After dinner, I went back to my huge quiet twin room, tried to call my fiancé, obviously it didn’t work. As the night became a bit chilly, I had a hot bubble bath to make me warm and relax, which was really good. But I wasn’t that tired or sleepy, so I turned my computer to play some music.

I went to sleep into a double-size cold bed at about mid night, hoped to dream about my great love, who is thousands of kilometers away from where I was.

22nd January 07

When I woke up for toilet, it was 20 minutes before the wake up call I’d booked. The call came and I was told to come down for a bus, which leaves for the airport at 6:30! I tried to have a quick shower, but the hot water came from an old shower head and it was hitting me hard. I wanted to have the breakfast which was also included; I ate a bread roll, scrambled egg and bacon with orange juice. I was the last person to jump on the mini-bus from the hotel - everyone was waiting for me!

We arrived at Terminal 1 in Taipei International Airport at 7ish. I looked for my flight on the departure-notice board thing (I don’t know what it’s called - the huge board), but I couldn’t find it. I asked at information desk, then found out CI 0156 to Osaka leaves from Terminal 2 and I have to take a shuttle bus there.

Then I thought I had enough time to make a phone call to my fiancé in Brisbane, coz I hadn’t talked to him for so long. I had to buy a new phone card, since I lost the one I bought the previous night. I pressed his mobile number – no answer. Then I realized that I didn’t note his landline number! Finally, I found it on my computer and I was able to reach him. I felt so relieved and really wanted to hear his voice - I missed him so much… I talked to him with tears in my voice. After a quick 3min talk, I had to rush to get to Terminal 2 - it was nearly 7:55am. My flight was 8:55am, hurried to check in and left my suitcase, I ran to Gate D4.

As I promised to call Ben back earlier, I spoke to him a little longer again, then I rang to apologize to Jerry, who was expecting to see me the night before. As soon as I got on the plane, I was asked to change my seat twice! Anyway, the flight to Osaka was only one hour and fifty minutes. I had chicken pasta with Heineken while I was watching “Superman Returns” which I couldn’t finish at the 1st flight. We arrived in Osaka to sunny weather (but a bit chilly). Surprisingly, I didn’t have any strange feeling coming back to Japan, I felt like I was coming back from a holiday. I sat down on the bench taking out a green jacket from my suitcase; in addition, turned on the computer to see if Ben was online. Although it showed him on line, he didn’t respond on MSN. On the other hand, I saw 2 unopened emails from him, the one he wrote was when he got back from the airport, the other one was written about the 1st morning waking up without me. It was very hard to hide my tears in public, so I read them quickly, and closed them. I decided to email my sister, Asami, telling her what time I would arrive in Kanazawa instead of leaving a message on her mobile.

The express train ‘Haruka’ left at 1:46pm from Kansai Airport station, then I had to catch another train from Shin-Osaka station at 2:46pm - it was a smooth transfer train to train. The train travel to Kanazawa wasn’t too bad, which took just over 2.5 hours; it is kind of a wobbly local railway that gives me motion sickness. The train stopped at Kanazawa station at about 7:30, I was happy to see my sis waiting outside of the ticket gate. Putting my luggage into her red car, we drove away from the station and headed home.

After an hour drive, I saw my dad at the front door - smiling. The house hasn’t changed much, except for a tall sliver shiny stylish fridge and pearl-white less-used microwave in the kitchen. My mum came back in half an hour; she had already order take-way sushi for dinner; she cooked some warm soup, and we began the dinner without my brother (who went out for socializing with work people). We ate and talked - catching up on things; they liked their souvenirs. I ate a lot of sushi and had a Sapporo beer. After dinner, I tried to connect internet in my room, but it didn’t work; used a cable in the living room, it was connected with no problems. Finally, I caught Ben online started chatting and I couldn’t get it enough messaging him on MSN. I wanted to hear his voice, so we changed to talking on the phone, which was much better even though his voice sounded differently - not as sexy as his usual voice, but I still loved talking to him. The time talking to your lover flies so quickly, he had to go to bed soon. I hate the moment that I have to hang up the phone or finish talking with him. This was the first night I came home to Toyama. I just keep on thinking there are (only) another 8 months until I get to see my fiancé and to be in his arms.

Satomi